On Being A Social Media Dad (And Other Things)

Joel Gratcyk (Daddy's Grounded)

Joel Gratcyk is a social media strategist, father, husband, perpetual student and caffeine junkie. He misses sleeping, but loves being a parent more.

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15 Responses

  1. Kyle says:

    Great article. My wife and I are expecting our 2nd in 5 weeks. I’ve been considering starting a blog myself regarding my two boys and I love your format and will definitely add it to my feeds. My wife likes your wife’s blog as well. Great names. That’s what I’m hung up on. Best of luck.

    • Joel says:

      Thank Kyle! Glad to hear you and your wife like our blogs. Picking a name is tricky. It is a lot like a trying to set a tone for a brand. You have to think about what the name means now, but what it also might mean years down the road if you have more kids or change careers. Good luck with your name choosing process. I look forward to seeing what you pick!

  2. Liz Austin says:

    I agree with the annoyance of people changing their profile pictures to pictures of their kids (or their cat, or their truck, or their husband, or any random thing that is not THEM). And the thousand exact same picture of their kids. Just post the best one, when you post a whole album of one thing nobody looks through it anyway! I am probably guilty of only posting stuff about my kids (I try to only keep it to every few days, though) but the main reason for that is because nobody seems to be interested when I post other stuff about my personal interests, so I’d rather not bore them. And my other profiles (besides facebook) are pretty much just for my blog anyway, so that is all obviously kid/education related.

    • Joel says:

      Liz, I think you do social updates with kids right. The posts you make are always interesting/short/funny. You post photos from events, but only the best of and not a million versions of the same photo. Plus you’ve got a kids blog for longer kid specific updates and your profile picture includes your face. Keep up the good work!

  3. Vicky says:

    Please add the following rule: “I will not send Christmas/holiday card with pictures of my kids only.” I hate that! I love seeing my friends’ kids but I want to see my friends too! Some of these friends live far away and the only time I get a visual to keep in my mind is when the Christmas cards arrive. 12 pictures of your kids only tells me about THEM! You’re a FAMILY! OK, there’s my rant;)


  4. I don’t think you’re off base here thinking that you can do these things. I have a blog, where I post pictures of my kid ad nauseam, but it’s a baby blog and it was started as one.

    My personal FB profile stays relatively quiet with occasional baby photos ( as in once a month or so) and virtually no baby updates. I have single friends and I remember too clearly being sick of baby updates on FB when I was childless. If anyone wants to know about how Lexi is doing they know my blog address.

    And i REFUSE to put a pic of my kid into my profile pic. That is not YOU, so it should not be there. Together is fine, but not just the kid. I do, however, set my timeline banner as a picture of my baby

    • Joel says:

      Awesome, sounds like we are on the same page. The timeline image seems to be to be a perfect place to put a baby photo. Thanks for stopping by my blog!

  5. See, I think in general people don’t put kids’ pics because their kids are cute or because they think they’re cuter than themselves and cuter than other kids. In defense of us baby-pics-people, I think that when we put a picture of our kids, we still put pictures of ourselves in these pictures. Every picture of our children looking at the world with awe represents the naive and the innocent side of ourselves. A picture of our kids crying show ourselves without inhibitions. A picture of our kids laughing represents a side of ourselves we neglected a long time ago, which is why these are all fitting profile pictures–they do a better job representing us than our own manufactured self-identities.

    • Joel says:

      I like your idea of children being a more authentic version of their parents. It is an interesting one. Younger children do indeed show a side of their parents that they may no longer have or that they perhaps hid away years earlier. The hope, joy, dreams and energy that little ones have is truly amazing. I do however feel like that “version” of ourselves can be over shared on a parent’s timeline to the neglect of actual updates about said parent. That “over sharing” is what my post was intend to speak to. I hope I didn’t offend.

      • Oh, no offense. I personally have my own picture on the profile, and pretty much the only stuff I put on my personal FB is kids’ pictures, because that’s the easiest way for my mom in Israel to see pictures. I get you about the oversharing, but I think these people will overshare without kids too. They overshare stuff about their dogs and about their minor health discomforts (“Woke up with a bad cough again! FML!”), and then they have kids and they just move their obsession onto kids pictures.

  6. John Andrews says:

    Great post Joel, thanks for sharing. I hope I’m not guilty of over-sharing posts about my daughter!

  7. Nick says:

    The great thing about social media, is that everyone gets a chance to talk about what drives their own day. For some its their kids, for others it may be the night at karaoke, others flood your stream with stupid juvenile internet meems and annoying “repost this now or you suck” chains (you may be able to tell what really bothers me). Love them or hate them though, its what that person is choosing to represent themselves. I enjoy getting the witty updates and sardonic replys most, but try to appreciate what those in my life and those from my past (because lets be honest, most of my facebook contacts haven’t actually been in contact with me in years) choose to share. I find if I look at it that way, I can stomach, perhaps even enjoy what my newsfeed has become!

  8. Hey Joel,

    It’s pretty funny, because I literally wrote a post about all the things I’m not going to do last night.


    I’m 31 too, and my wife and I are due in May. I’ll be checking in on you, maybe we can share some stories.

    Good luck with keeping those promises!!!!